Moments of Permanence - A tiny, tiny mini-rant

From: sami Date: May 22nd, 2009 12:20 pm (UTC) (Link)

I Do Not Get that.

I can see myself asking you for maths help. But that would be on the basis that we are friends. And if it took you a lot of time, I would make you very-carefully-ingredient-assessed cookies or something. In much the same way, I'll give history/linguistics/beta services to friends, and spend as much time as necessary explaining things to friends, and so on... and get distinctly irritated when people expect the same privileges my friends get when they're not my friends.

This actually caused DRAMA in World of Warcraft, with someone in my guild getting seriously annoyed that I cheerfully handed valuable resources and thousands of gold to velithya, but wouldn't do the same for her.

I actually had to explain to her that being my friend for a number of years, including little things like sitting up with me in hospital until three in the morning when I had to be taken to emergency, that sort of stuff, means that velithya gets stuff other people don't. Especially if I hardly know them.

You wouldn't think it would be that hard to understand, but apparently, for her, it was. :rolleyes:

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From: sqbr Date: May 24th, 2009 01:08 am (UTC) (Link)

Oh, I know. Eventually I got very good at saying "I do free tutorials on Monday afternoons, if I'm not busy with first and second years I will help you then. Otherwise my tutoring rate is $30 an hour." Some of them took me up on the first offer but none took me up on the second :)

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