Moments of Permanence - here I come again

From: sovay Date: February 1st, 2026 01:09 am (UTC) (Link)

the whole lung cancer/new baby/dying father sequence

That is in fact a lot. I am glad to hear from you at whatever interval.

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From: sami Date: February 1st, 2026 10:22 am (UTC) (Link)

Thank you.

It was a very mixed bag phase of my life. The baby is largely great, he's a delight nearly all the time and often still cute even when he's being less than delightful.

And I'm very aware that we're incredibly fortunate to have him at all.

There is no entity like a toddler for being endearingly aggravating on occasion. With ours it usually involves his two great loves: 1) throwing 2) tipping.

Both of these combine badly with mealtimes...

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From: sovay Date: February 1st, 2026 09:49 pm (UTC) (Link)

There is no entity like a toddler for being endearingly aggravating on occasion. With ours it usually involves his two great loves: 1) throwing 2) tipping.

I am very glad you have him and he sounds like a ranged cat weapon.

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From: sami Date: February 1st, 2026 10:10 pm (UTC) (Link)

I have a theory that all toddlers are cats. I've lived with a toddler before, and known quite a few, and having our very own has really reinforced that.

He's usually pretty well behaved but when he's overtired he will break rules on purpose. The most adorable version is when he does it while loudly reciting the rule he's breaking.

Sometimes it's clearly an issue with impulse control, and he's learning that repentance and compliance with consequences can be taken in mitigation. The other day he got his little cricket bat back after his nap instead of losing it for the whole day when he seemed very sorry for waving it around near the table and sadly handed it over without protest. (Current discipline is that being naughty with a toy loses it for the rest of the day plus he gets a discussion of why that rule exists.)

Sometimes it's an incredibly cat-like vibe of: right, I get that you don't like this, but at the same time, I am in the mood to make trouble on purpose so I am going to throw this ball into the kitchen sink.

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From: lady_ganesh Date: February 1st, 2026 10:08 pm (UTC) (Link)

I am trying to DW again and also feel like I've missed a lot. I'm very sorry about the pile of shit you've had to deal with and congrats on the little one. I was just hideously depressed for some of my kiddo's childhood and I try not to get too upset over the things the depression took from my memory. No one remembers everything, anyway, I tell myself. ♥

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From: sami Date: February 2nd, 2026 11:59 am (UTC) (Link)

I'm trying to do something similar.

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