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Nov. 3rd, 2010 @ 05:23 pm 
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I am profoundly confused right now.
I just went to comment on a post that showed up on my reading list.
... I'm banned from commenting on that person's journal.
(Which means I also can't send them a personal message to ask why.)
I'm confused because I am aware of no conflict I've ever had with this person.
I searched through my e-mail - I archive all comment/reply notifications, because I store my brain in my computer, and I will easily forget important things if I don't - and we have zero history of conflict. The only interaction we've ever had is that I once, on LiveJournal, posted a comment in this person's LJ - and my LJ account has a different username (theirs doesn't). I just reread my comment, and I don't think it's offensive.
If they were offended, they didn't say anything. If I give offence, I always try to resolve that; as a rule, I'll apologise (and explain what I meant if what I'd said had come across differently from how I'd meant it). I don't know that I've ever just said, "No, I meant that, and you're wrong!!!" or some variation thereof. (Because as a rule, if I give offence, it was accidental, and if I express myself badly and it comes across in a way that offends the person I was addressing, I wish primarily to correct this error. If I intended to give offence, it's generally pretty damn clear.)
And apparently you don't get notified when you get banned, so I don't even know when this happened.
It's confusing and disconcerting and I'm mildly distressed, because now I feel like at some point I must have really upset someone, and I don't know how or when which means I don't know how to fix it.
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| From: | ![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png) sqbr |
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November 3rd, 2010 10:01 am (UTC) |
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Wow, yeah, that would make me super self conscious, especially someone on my reading list!
It's possible they saw you express an opinion they are vehemently opposed to and banned you for that rather than you doing something personally upsetting. People get offended by weird stuff sometimes.
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| From: | sami |
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November 4th, 2010 09:55 pm (UTC) |
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Yeah... especially given this is an anti-kyriarchy type and it's not like I'm all Up In Your Right Wing here.
Maybe they disapprove of my choice in video games, I don't know. I played Nier therefore I'm a bad person or something.
that ... is just weird.
(and I didn't know you *could* ban people. huh).
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| From: | sami |
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November 4th, 2010 09:54 pm (UTC) |
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Isn't it just.
ANd yeah, quite easily actually, though I've never done it.
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| From: | elaran |
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November 3rd, 2010 11:18 am (UTC) |
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how odd. i'm with sophie in that the only thing i can think of is that they found something you said elsewhere (here or on a comment to someone else's journal) offensive and decided to ban?
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| From: | sami |
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November 4th, 2010 09:54 pm (UTC) |
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Yeah... but I can't think what. I'm just not that offensive generally, you know? At least not to lefty types.
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| From: | willow |
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November 3rd, 2010 12:43 pm (UTC) |
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On the one hand, you could have hurt someone very much, who felt too hurt to even say anything. But, on the other hand, you could also have stated an opinion they felt was just wrong, or too pc, too liberal or too 'biased'. In which case, if they left in a huff, they wouldn't say anything anyway.
**hugs offered**
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| From: | sami |
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November 4th, 2010 09:53 pm (UTC) |
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**hugs accepted** Sorry for delayed reply, I had a one-day Death Cold Of Absolute Doom And Death And Did We Mention Doom yesterday. That first option is why I'm having to try quite hard to rationalise my way out of feeling bad - I hate the idea that I might have accidentally hurt someone so badly without being able to try and repair the damage. But I can't really imagine it being the second option, because this is someone who's all over the liberal, anti-kyriarchy thing themselves, and I can't recall ever expressing some kind of sneaky I Love The Kyriarchy thing, so it's just confusing. I just don't know. Mind you, over on bossymarmalade's journal some anonymous just called me a misogynist for using the word "bitches", so maybe that's it...
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| From: | sqbr |
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November 8th, 2010 09:06 am (UTC) |
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You've expressed opinions that someone could strongly disagree with for reasons that are neither personal nor social justice related, though.
Like: maybe they're a big fan of Richard Dawkins and took your criticisms of him as you being evangelically anti-atheist (an interpretation I wouldn't agree with, but atheists can be as oversensitive about religion as anyone else)
I am honestly glad you don't get notified when you're banned, because there are people I've banned pre-emptively (not many) whose radar I did not want to fall under. But...yeah, that is pretty upsetting.
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