Moments of Permanence - The extraction of poisoned barbs

From: fayance Date: May 16th, 2009 05:41 pm (UTC) (Link)

I'm so sorry you had to go through that; why are people so small and petty and hung up on exterior appearances, sigh? I know some outwardly attractive people who are complete a**holes but they get by with crap because they LOOK good; makes me ill. I gained 40 lbs this past year with a tumor/growth on my thyroid and felt so physically ill and exhausted and had people insinuating that I must hate myself to have let myself go so badly; well, idiots, I was ILL, and even if that hadn't been the reason for my weight gain, that was still a cruel and thoughtless thing to say. No one has the right to criticize any other human being for the way they look, whether they can 'help it' or not. My sis was born with one eye smaller than the other and even with surgeries in her childhood it is still rather noticeable that one eye is smaller; so all her childhood she had cruel children refusing to let her play with them on the playground unless she would agree to be the 'one-eyed monster.' Breaks my heart for her still and she's 54 now and still devastated by that deep in her heart. So I am sending you hugs and smiles; and though I don't know you (yet!), you sound like such a bright, empathetic, wonderful person!

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From: sami Date: May 17th, 2009 03:05 am (UTC) your spn icon provokes mine (Link)

Thank you.

It is one of those things that sticks with you - I suspect it would bother me less if I didn't have childhood issues assocated with it too, but even if that weren't the case... whose business is it but mine?

My best friend is beautiful, but a good and caring person, who isn't a jerk about appearances. (Oddly, some people are jerks *to her* because they resent that she's better-looking than they are, but that's a whole other thing.) Both she and Chas tell me I'm beautiful, and sometimes I can see it, but this crap can make it hard.

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From: velithya Date: May 17th, 2009 06:34 am (UTC) Re: your spn icon provokes mine (Link)

♥

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From: sami Date: May 17th, 2009 06:38 am (UTC) Re: your spn icon provokes mine (Link)

...

You know that look, where I do that sort of sideways smile? The smile when I'm kind of having trouble admitting to the smile?

*points at face*

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From: velithya Date: May 17th, 2009 06:40 am (UTC) Re: your spn icon provokes mine (Link)

SMILE

IT WILL MAKE YOU FEEL BETTER

AND YOU KNOW IT

(ps. teeth bitch)

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