Okay, so, here's the thing: I want to post about a pet peeve. However, the term I'm going to use is problematic for several members of my readership, guaranteed.
See, the pet peeve is: women who hate feminists.
However, there's a certain amount of term-definition required for "feminists", because there are a lot of feminists who also totally suck, and who are very loud in their sucking, and can, I know, seem to be What Feminists Are.
The problem here is not feminism, the problem is them.
See, feminism, to me, is kind of a legacy term, in some ways, not exactly an accurate representation of the movement to advocate equality between the sexes, and problematic in the way it's become linked, for some people, with some seriously problematic behaviour by some feminists. Some people argue it neds to be retired, as a term, but I dislike "womanism" pretty strongly - it's heading in the wrong direction, if you ask me. Possibly I should talk more in terms of, say, anti-sexism, because my view is that the social structure we live in, with its assumptions about gender that, overall, privilege men is nonetheless deeply harmful to men as well as women.
The trouble with a lot of feminists is that they don't recognise intersectionality, and even if they do, nonetheless privilege advocacy on behalf of middle-class able-bodied cisgendered white heterosexual women, arguing that it's a distraction from the Important Issues to concentrate on issues that only affect non-white women, or disabled women, or trans women, or lesbians, etc.
Which, to me, is bullshit, because it's either for all women or it's just a substitution of oppressive hierarchies.
(I'm also irritated by so-called feminists who are anti-men in general. Individual men are not the problem.)
But a lot of women who identify as feminists identify as my kind of feminists - recognising that the other forms of oppression are important too, if only because these things feed into each other - you either take them all on or none of them, because even if you take on sexism full force, racism is going to be shoring it up even as you do so, because sexism feeds racism and racism feeds sexism.
(Yes, obviously you also do it because it's the right thing to do, but I'm trying to stay in the area of pragmatic reasoning, rather than abstract idealism.)
And when you bag on feminists, and make snotty remarks about the very idea that feminists could also be good people, then you are, in fact, not helping - if anything, you're aiding the existing power structure, aiding the Patriarchy.
The Patriarchy isn't just misogynistic, you know - the hierarchy of personal worth that it represents is also racist, classist, intolerant of anyone who isn't a cisgendered heterosexual, and hostile to anyone who doesn't conform. It also hurts men, enforcing gender norms that are bad for men.
That shit has got to go.
So where feminism is doing you wrong, okay, call it out. Demand that feminism be better. Expect more. But don't bag on the very idea that feminists could have a sense of humour, that feminists could be making a good point, that feminists could be people worth knowing. Constructive criticism, like, say, "feminism is unresponsive to the issues of non-white women, which is both racist and exclusionary," can only make feminism better, but if your ultimate point is only, "feminists are man-hating humourless ugly bulldykes with hairy legs", then shut the hell up.