 Random musings, at best; my brain ferrets are strong today
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May. 24th, 2009 @ 12:39 pm 
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I believe these things are true:
1) If you try to control the way in which someone lives, you must prove how that causes you harm.
e.g. If someone has a gender identity other than "biologically determined default", and you don't want them to, you have to prove to me that this will somehow cause you harm. Which, by the way, I'm pretty confident you won't be able to do. "But he has a penis, and he wants to use the Ladies toilets!" Yes. She does. This causes you no harm. So shut up.
(Okay, the queues might have been shorter at the women's toilets back in the days when I actually went to gay clubs, had the drag queens not been there too, but queues at women's toilets are a given, and the men's toilets had fewer mirrors and more fucking, so I wasn't going to complain if someone was trying to keep semen stains off their sequins; in any case, drag queens are not equal to transgender folks, and drag queens only hog the mirrors, not the stalls. What kind of woman are you, anyway? If you wear makeup, you should still have the skirt to wrestle a few drag queens for mirror space - pro tip, it's hard to fight in six-inch-platform stilettos, and real women fight dirty.)
Feminists, lesbians, and Lesbian Feminists who are all anti-trans really bug me. Like, hi, how do you not realise the hypocrisy of what you're doing? If that person considers herself a woman, and wants to sign on for womanhood, and all the crap that comes with it as well as the positive, awesome aspects of womanhood, then you have no call to try and stop her. She is one of us. If we're trying to reject being defined by our reproductive organs and nothing more, where do you get off defining someone else by theirs?
MTF trans women, imo, should be welcomed in women-only and women-oriented spaces. FTM trans men, not so much. Special shout-out to the one dude I knew who got pissy about it, while still being very firm about his maleness. Congratulations, John: You are, or at least were nine years ago when I knew you, successful in your transition not only to manliness, but to being a misogynistic douchebag, and yes, I still hate you.
(Note: Just John. Other trans men I've known have been fine. I retain my capacity to distinguish between normal men and misogynistic douchebags.)
2) Church and State should be kept separate.
If you believe that the government should have no right to control your religious expression, you have no right to demand that your religious expression control the government.
I am Christian. I was an adult when I first experienced faith in God. Before I believed in God I believed in the separation of Church and State. Now that I believe in God?
I am adamant in my belief that religion and politics should be kept separate.
The most obvious way in which this plays out is the question of same-sex marriage. The thing is, the objections to same-sex marriage are pretty much entirely religious - which means they have no place in a political matter. If marriage is a contract involving God, then marriage is something the government shouldn't touch.
This is why...
3) Gay marriage shouldn't be legalised. Neither should heterosexual marriage.
Okay, there are legal ramifications to marriage. That makes sense. So civil partnership should be a legal matter - it's good to have people who can make decisions for you if you're incapacitated, it's important for the welfare of children, etc.
So people should be able to form civil partnerships, that have the legal effects that marriage currently has. But it should be something that people can choose whether they intend to have a sexual relationship with their partner or not. Two people who haven't found someone to marry, but have a friendship that's rock solid, that they feel will stand the test of time, who want to have the options to take care of each other? They should be able to do just that.
And yes, as matter of fact, I do think this could expand to include more than two people. Even regarding children - there's no harm to a child if a third - or more - person has the right to take care of them, to pick them up from school, to make decisions if they're sick, or if another parent is incapacitated. If guardianship is easier to establish.
I'd even like limited versions of this. Like, ![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png) velithya is listed as my next of kin in several places. According to the registration person at the hospital, she does, in fact, thereby have authority to make medical decisions on my behalf if I am incapable of making them myself. This works for me, but I'm not sure it's something legally guaranteed. My relationship with my parents isn't problematic enough that their challenging this is likely to be a big problem in and of itself, but for other people, it can be, and is.
So. Civil unions should be a legal matter. Marriage should be a church matter. Civil unions are for everybody. Marriage is between you and your god(s) and/or conscience.
4) Since this was originally supposed to be my fandom/ficjournal, I should post some fic.
Under consideration:
- Some Kamen Rider Kabuto smut I wrote as commentfic
- Some of my old fanfic I don't now hate
- Possibly even a WIP
- Something... else
I have a zillion ideas for Star Trek fic, either Reboot or TOS, but am having trouble narrowing them down that much.Current Mood:  quixotic
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