Moments of Permanence

Oh, give me a break

2009-05-17T03:02:18Z

Mr Barnett described the poll question as “unnecessarily complex” and said he believed West Australians would not have to go back to the polls on the question for at least another decade.
( Ranting. )

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Blogging Against Disablism Day: Now Available in "Bitter"

2009-05-01T00:35:07Z

So, today is Blogging Against Disablism Day.

I hadn't decided whether I wanted to participate or not, but... this is kind of a problem. As are other things, and once I start ranting, I tend to go on for a bit.

Hoyden About Town is not a blog known for its fail status, but right now, for me, it kind of is. The summary:

Domestic violence commercial that is graphic and disturbing is banned from UK cinemas. In criticising this decision, Hoyden provides a link to the commercial in question - with trigger warnings.

To summarise what ensued:

Me: Uh, if it's potentially triggering for survivors of abuse, actually, I think it shouldn't be in cinemas. Because, surely, survivors of abuse should be able to go to the movies without having triggering content be part of the pre-movie commercials. I can judge my movie choices based on trigger risk. Commercials themselves should not be triggering.

OP: Well, you could just go in after the commercials, as the movie is starting.

Me: ...

My posted reply in comments may have substituted a fairly large amount of sarcasm for "..." because no really what the hell. Making it necessary for survivors of abuse to include awkward, socially-borderline-unacceptable, definitely-inconvenient-and-annoying requirements for going to the movies is not what I'd call a good solution, here. Entering the cinema while the house lights are up? Getting decent seats? Watching the previews?

NOT FOR YOU, YOU EMOTIONAL CRIPPLE! If you wanted to see previews, you should have known better than to be abused, shouldn't you? God, just suck it up and stop having post-traumatic stress disorder already, you whiner.

Not that I'm editorialising, but that is not cool.

Today's message about dealing with people with invisible disabilities amounts to this:

Putting the onus of avoiding further harm on the victim is wrong. Placing trigger-warning-worthy content in carelessly public places amounts to further victimisation. Denying victims of abuse the option of normal enjoyment of entertainment options is unfair and wrong.

Dear Mindy@Hoyden,

Helping? UR DOIN IT WRONG.

Kiss my PTSD-having abuse-survivor ass,
Sami

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Asking the internet

2009-04-28T04:28:13Z

So, here's the thing.

I know from reading posts like this that certain things my hair does are quite common with some types of hair more common in people of non-European/non-Asian descent.

However, I think that on the scale of asking non-white people to Represent Their Race, going up to random black people with nice hair and saying, "Your hair is awesome! How do you do it?" might come across just ever-so-slightly wrong.

The trouble is, I don't actually know anyone with hair like mine, and I've only seen people talk about hair like mine in the context of dealing with "black" hair. Most of it's fine - it's thick, it's curly, I haven't had it cut or trimmed in at least three years so I have slight split ends I'll get around to having trimmed at some point, and I manage it by being sure to use conditioner and keeping it braided almost all the time to keep it the hell out of my face, and it doesn't bother me. (And I can surprise people on special occasions by busting out some serious curls.)

But the hair near my neck refuses to get long, so it won't go into the braid, and it sticks out in ways I find both irksome and kind of distracting. That hair is tangly, kinky, and fragile. It gets about three or four inches long and then it gets tangly and knotty (even self-knotting) and breaks a lot.

Anyone know what I should do to maintain it better?

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